Family Head Massage Workshop: Bertie the Bear & the Corona Kids

A peaceful offering for you: a calming session for you to connect with your child, sharing simple head massage techniques with them as you listen along to the story ‘Bertie the Bear & the Corona Kids’ - see video below:

In the absence of being able to run live family head massage workshops at the moment, I’ve created a video of a workshop in which I demonstrate some simple head massage techniques for you to use at home, along with the story massage which reflects lockdown living. Please excuse my amateur videography skills!

I have found using head massage a fantastic way to offer a calm space for connection with my children during lockdown, and the story is written to provide a conduit for discussion - if children wish to - about their thoughts and feelings around the social separation we are all living through, as Bertie the Bear begins to struggle with not being able to leave his house or see his friends with lockdown continuing for many weeks.

The story is aimed at children of primary school age - approx 5 to 10 years. The whole session lasts for approx 35 minutes, there’s a 5 min introduction then a demonstration of the head massage techniques, and the story itself lasts for about 20 minutes.

Please do share this video with anyone you think may find it useful right now.

I do hope that you and your child enjoy sharing the time and techniques together and I’d love to receive any feedback you have … oh and children, I’d love to know where your Happy Place is!

Sending love, Tia x

Ps … The link to the video can be found at: https://youtu.be/HbQtmVeIv8s

And with huge thanks to Sarah Hercod for the beautiful illustration of Bertie the Bear, Kiki the Kid and the mail dove.

No, I'm sorry but I can't: musings on easing into post-lockdown life

“No, I’m sorry but I can’t”

Inspired (as always) by this morning’s Horizon Inspired meditation on Instagram (7.30am BST Monday to Saturday) Joey posed the question “What do you miss and what do you not miss right now?”  The most common thread that ran through responses was a desire to let go of busyness, franticness, over-commitment - that, along with missing hugs. 

I feel as though there’s a collective sense that releasing ourselves from over-commitment is something most of us want to aim for in our post-lockdown lives; it crept up on us, became part of the fabric of our culture in our home and work lives, and although right now many of us still find ourselves feeling busy (not least Key Workers who are perhaps busier, more pushed and stretched than ever - and I send so much love) with the intensity of home school, juggling this with working from home, navigating family life without the normal breathing spaces, plus keeping in touch with our friends, kids classmates and extended family in this new era of zoom the days can still feel as though they’ve run away with us; or is that just me?

That said, most of the commitments I have now, or had pre-COVID, I absolutely thrived on.  I don’t want to turn them down!  I love my work, spending time with friends, with family, being part of their journeys.  I want to take time out for exercise, reading a book, leisurely and creatively cooking rather than rushing through simply to have food in tummies at the end of the day.  Yet each day has finite length and there’s only so much we can fit in.  So perhaps I’ve not always managed to strike a balance that is the right fit for me at that given time.  

There are some people in my life I can bring to mind who are already streets ahead of me on this; I applaud you, and I know you as someone who is good at setting their own boundaries and expressing them kindly.  This is definitely something I know I need more practice with.

So if we want our patterns of behaviour to change after lockdown ends, do we need to start imagining what that might look like, what it might feel like?  Like most things in life, changes in our habits of thinking and behaviour come through practice.  So perhaps we need to start practicing now?

If I’m honest, for me a big part of it comes from worry about saying no: to my friends, to people I work with, even to myself.  Just typing the word “no” effects an emotional reaction inside me.  The feeling is troubling, vulnerable, uncertain - I guess because I don’t know how it’s going to be received and that feels uncomfortable.  I’m a “yes” person, something that has served me well in some ways, but can also (I realise) create imbalances in my life.

I know that I need to practice being able to - compassionately and kindly - say no if I’ve made a judgement that a commitment is going to shift me too far out of balance.  I also need to lean into what it feels like when others say no to me.  “No I’m sorry I can’t meet this week, not because I have a meeting or prior arrangement but simply because it feels like too much.  That isn’t a reflection that I don’t love and value you; it simply means I need to value creating a little more space in my life right now.”

OK so the conversation might not go exactly like that, but perhaps we can read that into the bass notes of the message rather than “Oh no, they don’t like me/value me/want to work with me” .. and the normal (for me) pattern of vulnerable thoughts that might unfold.

So perhaps let’s compassionately and kindly try saying no over the coming days: try it on for size, learn how to express this so it feels comfortable; and how to receive “No”, offering compassion to those who express it and to ourselves.  Can we learn to look ourselves in the eye and say a kind and compassionate “No”, recognising it as an offering of love and respect? 

I’m going to give it a go …

The photograph above was taken at the incredible Chateau Takeover weekend that I was lucky enough to be part of in February, that I nearly said “No” to due to a lack of confidence about what I could possibly offer. So thankful that in the end I re-jigged commitments to say “Yes”. I guess it’s all about finding the balance, hey?

March Breakfast Club Conversations: James Strawbridge, Miranda Hackett & Julie Tamblyn

Today our March Botelet Breakfast Club would have taken place. We are so sad that, like many, many ventures, we haven’t been able to welcome our guests to share breakfast in the farmhouse along with creative ideas and much laughter. 

But - there is so much positivity circulating right now that is keeping us going, so we wanted to mark this date by contuining some connection with all those wonderful people out there whom we are lucky enough to call our community; we need this more than ever right now.

This morning, we’re thrilled to share conversations with three of our Breakfast Clubbers in the absence of an in-situ meet up, along with a beautiful Green Shakshuka recipe by our dear friend and Breakfast Club guest chef James Strawbridge. So grab a cuppa, we extend a warm welcome to the Breakfast Club table - let’s hope it won’t be too long before we’re breaking bread together again 🙏


James Strawbridge, photo credit Holes in the World Studio

James Strawbridge, photo credit Holes in the World Studio

First up is James Strawbridge. James is a source of ongoing inspiration for Botelet Breakfast Club, brimming with ideas for the menu and beyond and he is my go-to for culinary questions! Issues of sustainability permeate James’s work and as a family he, Holly & their children regularly garden and cook together - something I’m hoping to do more of over the coming weeks. James guest chefs at Breakfast Clubs and today we’re thrilled he’s shared breakfast chat and then below a stunning, seasonal Green Shakshuka recipe; I can’t wait to try it out, we do hope you enjoy it too
Thank you so much James x

Where do you call home? 
Bodinnick-by-Fowey, Cornwall

What’s your occupation? 
Development chef, author and co-founder of Sons of Thunder Agency
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What do you love to eat for breakfast? 
A bowl of Special K or poached eggs on sourdough

What do you love most about spring? 
The palette of spring is joyous. Yellow, white and fresh sprouting greens. The snowdrops, primroses, daffodils, wild garlic flowers, gorse and hawthorn blossom is a sign of good times to come and it makes me super happy. I also particularly love getting back out into the garden with longer days & early starts. Also I’m very excited about bluebell season just around the corner.

What positives are you hoping to take from the current situation? 
Off-grid living has never been more popular or necessary & I’m hoping that people learn to have some digital detox and focus on being in the moment with themselves & their families. I hope to rediscover my own quiet hobbies, nurture my garden and be there for my children. I hope it’s a time of reconnecting with the natural world & thinking about boosting our immune systems by spending time looking after ourselves & our loved ones.

Do you have any top seasonal tips to share, as we prepare to spend more time at home?
Go for a forage and preserve what you find. Make some wild garlic salt or pesto. Get outside and engage with the outdoors rather than checking social media. Be the positive news & feed yourselves rather than tuning into people’s fears & anxiety. Detach to rebuild & restore energy, health & good vibes. Ferment, pickle, forage, grow & explore. Be healthy & happy x

Recipe for Botelet Breakfast Club by James Strawbridge  
Green Shakshuka 

Serves 2

Ingredients
Handful of wild garlic
Bunch of chopped spring greens and chard (go for a fridge forage and see what you can find…)
1 spring onion
1 tsp capers 
1 tbsp olive oil
1 tsp pesto
1 tbsp chopped fennel, chervil or coriander
1 tsp harissa paste
1 tbsp kefir or yogurt
4 eggs
6 olives

Method
Preheat your oven to 180˚C.
Make a simple pesto by blitzing wild garlic leaves, olive oil, pesto, capers and a pinch of salt.
Chop all your spring greens and wilt in a pan for 3-4 minutes until softened. Then add in your pesto and crack your eggs into the pan.
Bake for 5 minutes until the whites of the egg cook and the yolk is still runny.
Drizzle with kefir, some harissa if you like it spicy, and garnish with primrose and wild garlic flowers and some more fresh herbs.

Images by James, beautiful pottery made by James’s wife Holly


Miranda Hackett

Miranda Hackett

Our second Breakfast Clubber is Miranda Hackett. We first met Miranda at a Botelet Breakfast Club a couple of years ago, Miranda has been a regular since - and was booked in for today. Miranda creates beautiful seasonal floral arrangements and has run workshops with us here at Botelet in the past. 

Where do you call home? 
South Devon - we moved here three years ago.

What’s your occupation? 
I'm an artisan wedding and event florist.

What do you love to eat for breakfast? 
Natural yoghurt (full fat for the flavour!) with raisins and granola.

What do you love most about spring? 
Watching the greening up of the countryside - mostly the trees turning from dormant branches to wintery buds to a haze of light green leaf shoots.

What positives are you hoping to take from the current global situation? 
Creativity - how we will adapt to living in a different way and appreciate the simple things immediately around us.

Do you have any top seasonal tips to share, as we all prepare to spend a lot more time at home?
Create a photographic timeline of changes in the natural world around you to capture the development of spring. Take a photograph once a week of the same view/location e.g. a tree outside your house, or a flower bed in your garden, or a tray of seedlings on your windowsill, or the hedgerows down the lane. At the end of spring you could have these printed into a small book (using one of the free photo book apps online).


Julie Tamblyn, photo credit Holes in the World Studio

Julie Tamblyn, photo credit Holes in the World Studio

Our third Breakfast Clubber is Julie Tamblyn. Julie has lived at Botelet throughout her life, seeing the gradual evolution from working farm to diversification into holiday accommodation and beyond. Julie is a mainstay of our Breakfast Clubs, always ready to refill your tea pot and top up your freshly toasted bread.

Where do you call home? 
Botelet, Cornwall.

What’s your occupation? 
Co-owner of Botelet Cornwall - self employed.

What do you love to eat for breakfast? 
Cereal (granola if I’m out) plain yoghurt, blueberries or raspberries.

What do you love most about spring? 
Heat in the sun, dew, the promise of summer.

What positives are you hoping to take from the current global situation? 
Getting back to basics, ridding the world of red tape, taking note of how communities are working together and applying love and sharing after the crisis.

Do you have any top seasonal tips to share as we all prepare to spend a lot more time at home?
Simply note the first fledgling, the first swallow, the dawn chorus then after sundown start one of those unread books we all have.